31 March 2011
23 March 2011
"Hear, hear" and listening
"Hear, hear" is what debaters say to agree on others' opinions.
I have countless experience of being a listener, a process centre, or even a simple recycle bin for problems and dilemmas friends faced. Being glad that I actually am able to gain friends' trust into doing this, I found it vulnerable at times for not being able to extend the hand of help.
Psychologists suggest that when guys are looking for solutions when they tell others their problem, girls, on the other hand, are anticipating your emphaty, your understanding, and just, your pair of ears.
Funny, sometimes I think, the way we are created - North and South, positive and negative, male and female. Every organism and creation seems to find a suitable place to settle down, being a part of the nature.
Ooops I digressed. Yes, and I am a girl too. The sharing of problems from my friends allow me to open a window to the other side of the world which I never touched, or encountered. I knew that all these girls need are a pair of ears but sometimes I can't help to provide them with options of solutions. If emphaty can make someone feel better, I am happy that you had chosen me as the person to listen, and protect the problem, because the weak side of us are always a secret side which we will only share with close and trusted ones.
Life is never easy. We expect ups and downs, and talking about downs, I do not think I can continue this webpost as planned anymore 'cause I just hurt my nail and my right thumb is currently bleeding. I never concluded any of my writing like this before, but I guess I just hit one of the bottom of my life, a bleeding right thumb.
Take care and beware. =D
12 March 2011
01 March 2011
If...you became Jane Doe #1001
Tonight, I viewed your emails by heart, skipping all the details and see ONLY what I want. Sweet memories. I knew, perhaps, I'd have cried if it was months back. Now... nothing hurts forever, not even betrayal, not even hatred.
That begins the journey of my imagination, if you became Jane Doe, one day, without any prior notice, without saying goodbye, and *poff* away from my life just like that...
1.
I turned to see where I came from, what I had gone through and how I finally able to view the best scenery of life.
Now I look around, I feel lonely without the girl I used to know.
There's no longer anyone to share my happiness with.
2
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Flipping through the photo album, I stopped at where we were smilling innocently and carefree,
only realising that now you are even more carefree with the past you have forgotten.
You lost me together with your memory, but I still miss you, the old you, more and more.
3.
Door chimed in the Starbucks, looking up from my laptop, I see the face that appear in my life so much.
Excited, I shouted at you to grab your attention for a cup of coffee together.
Our eyes met.
You just looked at me curiously with other customers, wondering who I am calling.
4.
It was just a gathering, a supposedly happy one.
Your name was mentioned, and the table was silent, for five minutes.
Then the topic was changed.
5.
I saw you in my office, they said you're new here.
I squeezed through the crowd to introduce myself, and you smiled back at me, not unlike the first time we met.
6.
A wedding invitation from you on my table, bride's maid: your cousin.
When I showed up with my present, your husband was shocked and glad.
"You were her best friend. I knew you'd still be."
"It'd never be the same," I told myself.
7.
The little baby was welcomed among the collegues.
I was introduced to the baby as your manager, not his godmother.
8.
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